We gossip all day long. We chat about Lindsay Lohan’s latest run-in with the law (apparently she’ll be wearing a new bracelet), and Michelle Obama’s biceps. We weigh in on the Jesse James/Sandra Bullock marriage and divorce drama, and we chatter on about which political candidate said what to whom.
Like all young girls, I loved to get in on a good gossip-fest when I was in junior high and high school. After all, the more gossip you were privy to, the more likely it was that you were part of the “in” crowd.
It wasn’t until I was an adult and the rumor mill started spewing out speculative slander about my family and me that I finally understood the devastation left by gossipmongers. Hearsay burns hot like an inferno, and it leaves nothing but embers and loss in its wake.
Gossiping with the girls about the latest Hollywood bad girl to whack on the paparazzi seems harmless enough, I guess. But, when the latest news to come down through the grapevine is about someone you know personally, just say no! Close your ears, close your mouth, and walk away.
Relationships are built between people who talk TO one another, not ABOUT one another. Further, if you want to keep a friend, don’t allow yourself to carry on idle chatter about that special person. You will lose their trust—I promise you.
You have a choice. I have a choice. Will we build bridges or brick walls—relationships or rumor mills? I have a choice.